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2017! Three Words! Let’s Go!

img_1043-2Yesterday, I took a moment to look back at 2016 and I am glad that I did. After that exercise in honoring history, I actually changed one of my words for 2017. My words for 2017? That may be what you are wondering. Let me explain. In 2013, Tom Hood introduced me to the concept of Three Words (and that concept came from Chris Brogan). I use these three words to give the year ahead a theme, almost like a rhythm that I can dance to as I go through the year; and isn’t everything better with dance? The process of thinking about my three words and then coming back to them throughout the year, help consolidate, direct and give confidence to what I do and how I do it. As I read over yesterday’s post, I saw my 2016 Three Words dancing over my year, in ways that I had not thought about as I was writing the post – Learn. Fear. Community.

For several days, I thought about what my words for 2017 would be – and how those words would serve to seal my intentions for the days ahead. I think I have it now.

Embrace: In previous years I have written about changing things in my life. Transform was one of my words in 2014. Then, in 2015, Receptive was a word of mine. Last year we moved to a new neighborhood. When I was a kid, due to politics and other adventures in their lives, we moved around a lot. Between first and third grade, I went to four different schools in three different countries, in four different cities. During my first two years in New York City, I lost count of how many places I lived in. I even spent a couple of months camping out on a (very amazing) friend’s couch on weekends, while I worked in Florida during the week. Last year, I talked transformation and I was receptive to talk of moving but, now that I am here, I realize that it is not going to work until I embrace it. This is where I am now with my move, with my work, with my life. I can talk about how great innovations in my line of work are; I can marvel at how awesome some of the tools that are available to us are; I can wax lyrical about the incredible people who cross my path and make me better at what I do, but all of that is not worth much unless I dive in there, snuggle in and just embrace it all.

Persevere: When I started training to run long distance, I learnt about the power of a mantra. The mantra was invaluable to me, when doing hill repeats. I would chug up a hill and repeat, over and over again, “I love hills.” I will say this, I reached the top of that hill and many others AND I hate hills less and appreciate their value. I actually surprised myself when I told a cousin that I wished there were a few more hills around my new home. In 2015, I embarked on a new journey of sorts. I started my own business and decided that I wanted to do work that made me look forward to getting out of bed every day. I loved that my husband’s work, as a photographer, was something he also did for fun. I admired how excited he got about his projects and I wanted some of that. At times I would talk to some people about what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it and they would tell me, “that will never work.” Fortunately, my incredible community (2016 word, hello!) took over and repeated the mantra I had not yet learnt to say myself. However, as the year came to an end, I started to believe. So this year, I shall remember to say to myself, “You got this. You can do this,” not just when I am running, or doing pull-ups. I shall tell myself this as I am serving my clients, community and the public.

Monchu: My last word is a word that I have borrowed from Chris Brogan. Chris tells us Monchu is an Okinawan word that means “one family”. It essentially means that we treat people who are not our blood as though they are family. I have benefited from this concept forever. As someone who lives very far away from most of my blood, I just don’t know where I would be with my one family. For instance, I just wrote about how I was able to crash on a friend’s couch when I first moved to New York. I didn’t mention that I had only known her for months and she offered her home to me, and her husband and adorable daughter didn’t seem to mind either. That is just one of a million of my stories. I know that I could do a way better job of keeping in touch with people to let them know that they are part of my one family. I know that this philosophy will guide me to be better at what I do and how I do it. I hope to also inspire others around me to embrace this philosophy.

As I share my words for 2017, I want to acknowledge my words from previous years:

2013 – Change, Discover & Motivate
2014 – Transform, Pursue & Collaborate
2015 – Receptive, Synergy & Service
2016 – Learn, Fear & Community

And now for 2017 – Embrace, Persevere & Monchu. I am excited for the year ahead and I know that the view from my new home will help me do so. You see it up above, I can see forever now. I got this.

Tell me, what are your words?

I hope 2017 is your best year ever!

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2016! Three Words! Boom!

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Hey there 2016! In 2013, I officially put aside New Year’s Resolutions. This is because I was introduced to the concept of Three Words, by Tom Hood, who found this idea from Chris Brogan. I have found the three words to be a great way to give my year a point of consolidation and mindfulness. I have found the three words to be invaluable. I find myself bringing up these words in conversations and in my writing and I am sure I must sound like a broken record to some people. I am happy to be a broken record if this helps me live a life of greater focus and productivity. I am just about always trying to do too much and I have found these three words give me greater direction.

Last year, my three words were Receptive, Synergy and Service and I found these words coming up often during 2015. I faced several challenges during the year, I embarked on new ventures and my life took turns that I never imagined. During that time, my words from 2013 all the way through 2015 helped form my rallying cry.

As 2015 neared its end, I wondered what my words for 2016 would be. I took the time to look back and think about where I have been and then think forward to where I would like to go and what I want my compass to look like as I travel. Today, I have my words for 2016.

Learn: During my various adventures in 2015, I things thrown at me that I could either try to ignore or take lessons from. My brother got married and that brought a lot of my family together in one place. It is always amazing to me that, for as much as I think I know the stories of my family, when we come together there are new and incredibly interesting things that I learn. My husband and I also spent time together with his aunt where she regaled us with stories of her youth and his family history. As much as I think I know, I find that there are still more ways to expand my mind and that should I choose to, I can keep on learning. I hope to learn in formal settings, in informal setting and totally by surprise.

Fear: I am sure that at some point in my writing I have shared my irrational fear of rodents, a fear that is not very helpful for a person who lives in New York City. I remember once, years ago, I was living in an apartment an old building. The old buildings in New York are lovely to look at but come with holes, holes that mice like to climb through, especially when it gets cold. One evening, I was hanging out on the couch when suddenly a mouse scuttled across my floor. I was frozen on the couch, afraid to move lest the mouse and I collide. People tell me that the rodents are more afraid of me than I am of them; I beg to differ. I ended up calling my neighbor, from the couch and, luckily he came by and dealt with the mouse. Now, I am not about to dive into a close encounter with a rodent, but I am learning that the times that I have been able to get past my fears are the times that I have been able to have new adventures. I started my own business this year and I am learning to not let my fears about failure, about the unknown or about anything else hold me back. I am also having a great time exploring life and learning new things about myself and those around me.

Community: I say it all the time and it remains true – nothing happens without community. When I started my business I found support from friends, family and colleagues. I found support from strangers. Had I realized the power of community, I may have taken the leap earlier. An instrumental aspect of collaboration and synergy is community. As I continue on this incredible adventure, I want to be mindful of the great things that can be achieved by a community.

Just a moment to look back on my words from prior years:

2013 – Change, Discover and Motivate
2014 – Transform, Pursue and Collaborate
2015 – Receptive, Synergy and Service

And now: Learn, Fear and Community

I am unbelievably excited at the prospect of looking fear in the eye and saying, “bring it on.”. For it is through these experiences that I shall learn and it is with these moments that I shall be able to connect with my community and build that community. AND I have an extra day to do all of this this year. So, tell me, what are your words?

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2015! Three Years, Three Words…

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Three years ago, I was inspired by Tom Hood, by way of Chris Brogan. As someone who gave up on New Year’s resolutions years ago, partly because I was not very good at keeping them, partly because I would change my mind about them and partly because I would often lose track of where I had written them down, I found power in the concept of Three Words. I embraced the magic and power of three during my lessons in Latin and in rhetoric. I have found my three words a great theme song that plays in my head throughout the year. They pop up in conversations, in my planning and often at unexpected, random moments. And this year, the magical and powerful three are Receptive, Synergy, and Service.

Receptive: This year, for Christmas, I gave my husband a Bluetooth headset. Ever since I came across my first Bluetooth headset, I have hated those things. People walk around with those things constantly plugged in an ear and it always seems to me that they are only giving you a small piece of their attention and are, essentially, waiting for something more interesting and important to beep in their ear. I have often felt as though people wear the headsets to make themselves feel important and busy. Around Christmas, when my husband mentioned that he wanted one, I started thinking about the Bluetooth headset in a different way. He spends a lot of time travelling and alone in an office. It makes sense that, should he wish to answer the phone, it would make sense to be able to do this and still be able to use both his hands. He has promised to put it in his ear only when he needs it and to not wear it when we are together. Beyond me and my relationship with the Bluetooth headset, I am realizing more and more, how essential it is to success and happiness to be receptive to new (and old) concepts and ideas. At work and as a part of the various boards and committees that I serve on, I have discovered how essential it is to listen to the opinions of others and process them before concluding how I feel about a situation or idea. At times, the ideas of others are better than anything that I had considered; other times, after taking their opinions into consideration, we can come up with a great plan or compromise. In order to continue the spirit of my words from last year, Transform, Pursue and Collaborate, being receptive is key.

Synergy: Last year, one of my words was collaborate. There is the saying, no man is an island, and I have found it to be true. I have lived and learnt in many places and my world and experiences have been touched by an incredible spectrum of people. All this has contributed to who and what I am today. Collaboration is so very much of getting things done but, this year, I want to hone in on synergy. I want to really think about the wonderful notion of how one plus one can equal more than two (sometimes significantly so). So collaboration will not be solely for the purpose of doing things together; to do this without thinking about how to best leverage the power of collaboration can be wasteful, frustrating and diminish the contributions of each party. I want to be mindful of the concept of synergy and ask myself, often, how can we do this so that what we achieve together is greater than what we could achieve acting alone.

Service: I have talked before about the CPA’s obligation to “serve the public trust, honor the public interest, and demonstrate a commitment to professionalism.” As a forensic CPA, this is a very important aspect of our profession. Often there are pressures upon us and, it is at times like this, that it is necessary to act with integrity, in order to honor our obligation to the public and to our profession. As a member of various committees of my State Society of CPAs and the American Institute of CPAs, and as I prepare to take over the presidency of our chapter, I, along with my fellow members must always keep in mind that our goal is to serve the public, our members and our profession with the work that we do.

A couple of years ago, my husband, James, and I traveled to Berlin for a wedding. I had often told him how much I love karaoke and so, when we heard about Bearpit Karaoke, we had to find it. The place was packed and the singers were excellent. My husband encouraged me to put my name down to sing. After hearing the caliber of singers, and after seeing how many people were in attendance (a dauntingly large crowd), I hesitated and tried to make excuses. He finally convinced me and I put my name on a long list. I was told that I probably would not get a chance to sing as many people were ahead of me and they were shutting down soon. I was pretty okay with that – it was enough for me to have been part of the crowd and to almost get a chance to sing. At six o’clock, the time the karaoke was to end, we were just walking away when I heard my name being called. I was nervous and James whipped out his camera. As I got onto the stage and introduced myself and the song I had chosen, Fame, an old man in the crowd caught my eye and gave me a thumbs up. As I sang, the crowd joined in for the chorus and a little kid ambled onto the stage. When I had moments of panic, I looked at him and took courage from his cute face, gazing up at me. Because I chose to be receptive to the idea of singing in front of this crowd, I found that I added a joy to our day that was magnified by our coming together in happiness. And, of course, what a gift and public service this Bearpit Karaoke is. If you are in Berlin, go and get yourself some joy.

The spirit of my words
From 2013: Change, Discover and Motivate
From 2014: Transform, Pursue and Collaborate
carry on and to that spirit I add my three for 2015
Receptive, Synergy and Service.

What are your three words will bring you magic and power this year?

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Communications Addendum

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I was just in the Dominican Republic on a birthday/honeymoon/Thanksgiving trip. They say that people don’t do it well, but I think that we are doing a great job of multitasking vacations. However, I digress, as I am wont to do.

My husband lives for surfing. He checks the weather, daily, to see how it will affect the waves. He goes surfing, in the dead of winter, in New York City and, if that isn’t dedication, I don’t know what is. I get frostbite just thinking about it. When we travel, we often look to go to places where he can surf and, while he is surfing, I either go for a run or I take a surfing lesson.

During our multitasking vacation, I took a lesson. The lesson started out on the beach, with a session on technique. That went very well; it is very easy to surf on an immobile board that sits on sand. After this session, we were then each sent out with a board and an instructor. In addition to the challenge of keeping water out of my nose and mouth and, of course, trying to ride the waves, while standing on my board, I had to figure out how to communicate with Francisco, my instructor. My Spanish does not even qualify as rudimentary and, even though Francisco’s English was decent, I managed to do odd things on the board that he struggled to explain. Instead of giving up on me, he called on his co-instructors to bring together what English each knew. And they came up with a complete critique of my surfing technique, or lack thereof. My ego could have done with less resourcefulness, but my drive to succeed on the board appreciated it. The collaboration of these men was able to cover a lot of issues and, in no time, I was standing on my board and feeling rather accomplished.

Francisco, reinforced, for me, the power of collaboration, effective communication and, without a doubt, of having someone find you the perfect wave to ride. Gracias!

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2014…. New Year, Three Words

ImageLast year was the first year that I officially gave my year a theme song, so to speak. Via Tom Hood, social media, learning and sticky note aficionado, I learned about Chris Brogan and the concept of Three Words. When I studied Latin, in high school, we were taught about the magic of the number three – fewer than three can seem too little and more than three can feel like too much. Three is a number that just works. Veni, Vidi, Vici. Signed, Sealed, Delivered. And my words – Transform, Pursue, Collaborate.

Transform: On the Saturday before Superbowl in 2011, I went to the emergency room with a stomach ache. Who lives that life? The life where your stomach packs in before the party even begins. My then boyfriend and I were about to have our first Superbowl Party – the themed cake had been ordered, we were due to pick up our 6-foot long sandwich and the guests were coming. Instead I ended up spending that Sunday and a few more days in a hospital room. While I was there, my aunt came to visit and brought me a beautiful flowering plant. I brought it home, the flowers died and all that remained were the leaves.

As 2013 neared its end, my now husband and I talked about making big changes to our lives, to our work, to our play. Sometimes we find our lives take unexpected turns, sometimes we get busy and never get around to recalibrating and sometimes we lose track of our wants and desires. We decided that we were going to dedicate ourselves to rediscovering our loves and transforming our lives accordingly. This morning, on New Year’s Day, I awoke to find a flower blooming on the hospital plant. Three years of nothing but leaves, but it seems my plant has decided to transform as well.

Pursue: Sometimes there is nothing scarier than a goal. What happens if you don’t attain it? No one wants to be a failure; failure sucks. This fear of failure is incredibly good at keeping us in a state of atrophy, a comfort zone of sameness. This fear of failure can keep us from evolving and it can keep us from fulfilling our goals. In November 2013, I ran the New York Marathon. Watching runners pass my block as they ran the New York Marathon is the reason that I started running distances further than three miles. Back then and since, there have been many moments when I have wondered whether or not I could run 26.2 miles. Several years in a row, I would start training for the marathon and experience a setback that kept me from running the marathon. During the heatwave of 2013, I found myself unable to make it through 12 miles and I was convinced that there was no way I would make it through 26.2. And with all of that going on, I still aspired to run a Boston Marathon qualifying time of 3 hours and 45 minutes. I set this goal, even though the only other marathon I had run, in 2008, I had run in 4 hours and 50 minutes. In 2013, I did get to run the New York Marathon and it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I ran the New York Marathon in 3 hours and 51 minutes, short of my 3:45 goal and it was still amazing. Though I did not attain my 3:45 goal, I found that I achieved many things I did not even know I was aiming for. More than anything, I discovered how wonderful it is to have goals and to pursue them. Even if things don’t turn out the way you hope, you tend to end up with things turning out in fantastic new ways that you may not have imagined. In 2014, I plan to pursue goals and dreams – I may not pursue them fearlessly but I plan to persevere, even through fear.

Collaborate: Nothing that I do of any substance can I say I have done alone. There is invariably a support team of one kind or another. I have people that believe that I can and I have people that will help do what I cannot. I have people who will speak sense to me when I am being irrational and I have people who will urge me to be crazy when I am being too rational. I have strangers who smile and give me support and I have friends and family who do the same. It is easy to take this for granted and to perhaps believe that I can be a one-woman superhero. I plan to remain mindful of the power of synergy, the strength of the network and the force of the team.

Last year my words were Change, Discover and Motivate. This year, the theme song is different – Transform, Pursue, Collaborate – but the music is still thumping. 2014 will be blooming awesome!

What are your 3 words?

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