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One Team, One Dream


Pyeongchang Olympics Cross Country Men

The Winter Olympics are going on and I am filled with joy. From the opening ceremony until the end, I am inspired over and over again. Just the other day, Ester Ledecka, from the Czech Republic, won a gold medal, on skis she borrowed from USA’s Mikaela Shiffrin. Athletes, representing their countries, come together to compete against each other while, at the same time, showing incredible sportsmanship, teamwork and support of each other. Four skiers from so-called “tropical” or “exotic” nations (Colombia, Morocco, Portugal and Tonga), who were among the last to finish, waited for the last athlete, from Mexico, to finish. They cheered him across the finish line and raised him in exultation. How incredible is all that?

Since I stepped out and started my own company, I have been spending a lot of time alone. Honestly, even though I was working in offices, my last few positions had me working mostly on my own. Seriously, I could go for weeks without talking to anyone about what I was working on. I would sometimes wonder if anyone cared. I started working on a project a few months ago and I am being reminded how powerful a great team can be.

Modern offices are designed to have more interactions among people – offices are more open, there are games set up in the office and people can hang out on couches. Imagine that, comfortable furniture in the office. With all of that, though, I am finding that the real trick to interaction and successful communication at work sits with the people. I have been in open office spaces where, for days on end, people say barely a word to each other. I have walked down hallways where the person heading towards me will risk breaking their neck by looking anywhere but at me – the horror of a greeting is strong, apparently. The Inner Auditor kept me thinking about the priority of people in a business and on a team.

In the work that we do, we are often under pretty stressful conditions – clients are almost never happy to see us, we have tight deadlines and we are often trying to make sense of things that don’t make sense to the people doing those things. Each of us is incredibly busy and run the risk of keeping our heads down just get through everything assigned to us, while staying within budget. With that kind of pressure, the temptation is high to just put our head down, plug in our earphones and only engage when absolutely necessary. I am sure that approach can get the job done but I know, without a doubt, that the structure of the team that I worked with ensured that we excelled.

We did not choose our team, but I ended up working with three incredible women who have made me better at what I do and how I do it. I believe that we all agree that we have benefitted from our experience together. Each member of the team has a knowledge strength and is more than willing to share what they know and help us get a little stronger too. Even as deadlines have loomed and hours have stretched, our team has prioritized wellbeing. We have been taking time to read more, laugh more and talk to family and friends more. Because our team has come together on these various levels, we are also able to communicate the difficult information that comes up during our work. Sometimes, a person may come across information that will either upset the client or lead to more work. Sometimes a person may realize that they missed something. In these cases, if communication is not good, that person may choose to remain silent. Instead team members may end up spending energy on hiding issues and hoping that they are not discovered. That is never a good thing. Not only did our team feel comfortable about bringing up the issues, we were always willing to brainstorm and work together to resolve them.

Although this may sound like I am seriously crushing on my awesome team (which I am) it is also a great lesson in the incredible value of having a team that is talking to each other and working together in order to produce great work. In an office where no one is talking, and people are not interacting, how long do you think it will take to realize that something is wrong? If people view saying good morning as something to be avoided at all costs, who are they going to tell when they think the person in the cubicle next to them is doing things that they shouldn’t? If people are not talking about what their fellow work mates are doing, how are they to know who to turn to for assistance and will they even feel comfortable approach Janice who barely grunts when they come across each other in the office’s common space? And then, when fraud or error is found at the company, can you really be surprised that it took as long as it did for it to be discovered?

The time you take to get to know the people you are working comes with benefits that are worth far more than that time. It takes more than knocking down walls and providing great coffee. We spend a lot of time talking and reading about the impact of communication. We know this in theory but how often do we put energy into putting this into practice? I know that each one of us stepped outside our comfort zones in order to get to our Dream Team status. Each one of us made a conscious effort to reach out and share of ourselves. Each one of us was determined to produce exceptional work and communication was a key element of achieving that. I have been inspired by these women that I have worked with. I have laughed, been moved and been brave with them.  I shall be truly sad when this project is over and eternally grateful for the great experience. #OneTeamOneDream

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Three Words for 2018? We Got This!


Over the last week, I have been thinking about 2018. I don’t know about you, but 2018 snuck up on me. One moment I was caught up in the day-to-day of 2017 and the next moment 2018 was just a couple of weeks away! After my initial panic, I thought – well, it’s great because I get to think of my three words. Three words? Well, if you haven’t been on this journey with me before, I shall explain. In 2012, I met and was inspired by Tom Hood and he introduced me to the Three Words approach, which came from Chris Brogan. At the start of every year, now, I sit and think about what three words I would like to guide me through that year. During the year, I come back to those words, to help center, direct and motivate me. Over the last few days, I have thought about how to make this work better for me, and I determined that I must display these words to remind me, even when I am not thinking about being reminded, to move me when I feel stuck and to hold me accountable. I say this in part because, 2017 was a challenging year for me and I found that I often lost track of my guiding lights. Involved in, and sometimes overwhelmed by, the moment, I often forgot to even look for my words. Putting the words everywhere, will go a long way to keeping me mindful of that.

Last year, I started looking back over my year and I have found this to be a great way to assess how things went and to help me set my intentions for 2018. My three words:

Imagine. This is the first word that came to me. During 2017, in part through work and volunteering with the New York State Society of CPAs and the AICPA, I have had some truly new experiences. I have learnt how to play poker and how poker skills can benefit me in the workplace; I have worked with a team to consciously inch towards better health – physically, emotionally, and spiritually – and that has included laughing more and skating in Byrant Park; I have collaborated with incredible people and presented in various spaces, from a national conferences to a college campus. During the year, I have been involved in conversations that have opened my eyes, that have ventured into spaces that are often afraid to even tiptoe into, that have renewed my hope when things have seemed bleak. I have often reminded myself to listen and to hear because that is when I find the moments that hit me hard and that get me to imagine and those moments are incredible. When we imagine, and step outside of what we know, we can find brilliance, we can find understanding and, just as important, we can also see and revise the not so great. In 2018, I want to imagine without fear of where my imagination will lead me. I want to imagine and be okay with when what I imagine doesn’t always work out. I also want to make sure that I make the time and space for my imagination. Back in 2015, I tried to create space for me to be bored, which is a big part of creating the space for imagination and, as the exercise stated, brilliance. It did free my mind in great ways and, looking back and looking at now, I know I need a lot more boredom in my life. And I still haven’t finished my Starry Night jigsaw puzzle!

Innovate. During 2017, I listened and took part in conversations about change. The conversations were about artificial intelligence (AI) about blockchain (and cryptocurrencies, like Bitcoin) and about cybersecurity. Other conversations were about what diversity, inclusion, and belonging mean and if and why it is important. We had conversations about what to do about all the change happening in our professions, in our world and in our lives. We talked about how we react to it and how we can embrace, be ahead of and even create greatness out of all the change. Beyond the conversations, we brainstormed and tried new things. We looked at the new approaches other took and ran with them. I spend a lot of time looking at challenges and how, sometimes, people take the same approach to resolving them and see minuscule results. As much as we tout how “change is good”, it is a human thing to resist changing the status quo. During this year, I want to innovate. I want to collaborate and brainstorm and determine to try something new. I want to embrace the difficult conversations, appreciate and improve upon feedback and, on my part, provide truly constructive feedback. I want to remember the power of synergy and never forget that the best innovations come through a community of people sharing, listening and taking risks.

Act. My third word came to me after I wrote and thought about my 2017 look back. When it comes to training, I have established and go with what gets me to success. If I have a race, I print up a daily timetable that includes rest days, cross training days and exactly what I shall do on each day (distance, goals, tempos if needed). The night before every training, I put out exactly what I am going to wear on the day and I determine my route. I think about and take away all my excuses so that, when I wake up, I just do exactly as planned and that gets me a step closer to where I need to go. I keep my schedule on the wall and tick off each day as I go along. During 2017, I often did not apply this approach. As a result, especially where I felt the stakes were high, I became adept at getting cold feet, at second-guessing myself and at putting things off until I decided it was too late to do them. There are many reasons why this happened but knowing the reasons and doing nothing about them is not helpful. I am going to do more acting in 2018. To help me do this, I am going to find the ways to take away my excuses, and I am also going to be more realistic about what I can get done, so that I don’t end up doing many things in a mediocre manner that only serves to disappoint me and others. I also must remember to be kinder to myself when I act and to see the power in action. I must remember that it is through action that I can bring value and have impact.

Before diving into 2018, I want to take a moment and meditate upon my previous three words:

2013 – Change, Discover & Motivate
2014 – Transform, Pursue & Collaborate
2015 – Receptive, Synergy & Service
2016 – Learn Fear & Community
2017 – Embrace, Persevere & Monchu

Several years ago, I went to Hawaii with friends and decided to take surfing lessons. I was a couple of months out of surgery and hesitated before I went out – I wasn’t at full strength, everyone else was going on a fun outing and I would be doing this solo, as no one else was interested. But, I had been thinking about taking a surfing lesson and I had told my surfing neighbor (who ultimately became my husband) that I was going to take a lesson and that made me feel accountable. During the lesson, I fell countless times, I scraped my knee and sometimes even got to the point where I was able to ride a wave while kneeling on the board. Then, I stood, and rode, and didn’t fall off. It was glorious and totally worth every fall, and the skin missing from my leg. When I finally fell off the board, I rose out of the water with a victorious yell! It is this that I must remember – it is a journey but it can only happen if I Imagine, Innovate AND Act.

Happy and wordy 2018 to you! Please share with me – what are your words for 2018?

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2017! Three Words! Let’s Go!

img_1043-2Yesterday, I took a moment to look back at 2016 and I am glad that I did. After that exercise in honoring history, I actually changed one of my words for 2017. My words for 2017? That may be what you are wondering. Let me explain. In 2013, Tom Hood introduced me to the concept of Three Words (and that concept came from Chris Brogan). I use these three words to give the year ahead a theme, almost like a rhythm that I can dance to as I go through the year; and isn’t everything better with dance? The process of thinking about my three words and then coming back to them throughout the year, help consolidate, direct and give confidence to what I do and how I do it. As I read over yesterday’s post, I saw my 2016 Three Words dancing over my year, in ways that I had not thought about as I was writing the post – Learn. Fear. Community.

For several days, I thought about what my words for 2017 would be – and how those words would serve to seal my intentions for the days ahead. I think I have it now.

Embrace: In previous years I have written about changing things in my life. Transform was one of my words in 2014. Then, in 2015, Receptive was a word of mine. Last year we moved to a new neighborhood. When I was a kid, due to politics and other adventures in their lives, we moved around a lot. Between first and third grade, I went to four different schools in three different countries, in four different cities. During my first two years in New York City, I lost count of how many places I lived in. I even spent a couple of months camping out on a (very amazing) friend’s couch on weekends, while I worked in Florida during the week. Last year, I talked transformation and I was receptive to talk of moving but, now that I am here, I realize that it is not going to work until I embrace it. This is where I am now with my move, with my work, with my life. I can talk about how great innovations in my line of work are; I can marvel at how awesome some of the tools that are available to us are; I can wax lyrical about the incredible people who cross my path and make me better at what I do, but all of that is not worth much unless I dive in there, snuggle in and just embrace it all.

Persevere: When I started training to run long distance, I learnt about the power of a mantra. The mantra was invaluable to me, when doing hill repeats. I would chug up a hill and repeat, over and over again, “I love hills.” I will say this, I reached the top of that hill and many others AND I hate hills less and appreciate their value. I actually surprised myself when I told a cousin that I wished there were a few more hills around my new home. In 2015, I embarked on a new journey of sorts. I started my own business and decided that I wanted to do work that made me look forward to getting out of bed every day. I loved that my husband’s work, as a photographer, was something he also did for fun. I admired how excited he got about his projects and I wanted some of that. At times I would talk to some people about what I wanted to do and how I wanted to do it and they would tell me, “that will never work.” Fortunately, my incredible community (2016 word, hello!) took over and repeated the mantra I had not yet learnt to say myself. However, as the year came to an end, I started to believe. So this year, I shall remember to say to myself, “You got this. You can do this,” not just when I am running, or doing pull-ups. I shall tell myself this as I am serving my clients, community and the public.

Monchu: My last word is a word that I have borrowed from Chris Brogan. Chris tells us Monchu is an Okinawan word that means “one family”. It essentially means that we treat people who are not our blood as though they are family. I have benefited from this concept forever. As someone who lives very far away from most of my blood, I just don’t know where I would be with my one family. For instance, I just wrote about how I was able to crash on a friend’s couch when I first moved to New York. I didn’t mention that I had only known her for months and she offered her home to me, and her husband and adorable daughter didn’t seem to mind either. That is just one of a million of my stories. I know that I could do a way better job of keeping in touch with people to let them know that they are part of my one family. I know that this philosophy will guide me to be better at what I do and how I do it. I hope to also inspire others around me to embrace this philosophy.

As I share my words for 2017, I want to acknowledge my words from previous years:

2013 – Change, Discover & Motivate
2014 – Transform, Pursue & Collaborate
2015 – Receptive, Synergy & Service
2016 – Learn, Fear & Community

And now for 2017 – Embrace, Persevere & Monchu. I am excited for the year ahead and I know that the view from my new home will help me do so. You see it up above, I can see forever now. I got this.

Tell me, what are your words?

I hope 2017 is your best year ever!

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Over My Shoulder


I was in high school before I realized how much I love history. Even though I read many historical adventures and would get so caught up in stories that I would find myself being moved in ways movies and television could, I never attached that excitement to any history I ever learnt in school. There was a separation of story and history until I ended up with a history teacher who was so gifted at bringing history to life that I didn’t even really feel as though I was in class.

What has taken a while to sink in is that history is not just about other people’s stories and what they might mean, but it is also about my own stories (along with people around me) and how what I have done, thought and felt in the past is something that I should not only want to record, remember and recognize but also find importance in. In 2013, I started a new approach to beginning my year. Since then, I have given my year a theme, encapsulated in three words. In order to better think on what I would like to make as my theme for next year, looking back at where I have been is invaluable. So, I am taking a moment to take a look at how 2016 went – to learn, to appreciate and to give myself a pat on the back where needed.

Throughout my year, I continued to be amazed by and grateful for the people I crossed paths with – friends, strangers and those in between. It may have been someone telling me not to give up at moments when the thought was threatening to become action. It may have been someone sharing words of wisdom that kept me and my fear, anger or ego acting out irrationally.

In 2016:

  • I moved to a new neighborhood. This was a big deal as I had lived in the same neighborhood for 16 years (my husband had been there for 20), we had many friends that lived conveniently close and more amenities than we knew what to do with. I miss it all AND I am excited about our new path forward.
  • A college friend invited me to take cello lessons with her and another friends and I said yes. We love it – we dream big and take small steps every week toward living those dreams. I know those around us, who get to hear us practicing, hope that we live those dreams sooner rather than later.
  • I was accepted into New York Community Trust Leadership Fellows, a program in nonprofit leadership that has both expanded my mind and exposed me to some truly inspiring, passionate and motivating people and organizations.
  • I had great conversations with high school students, college students and fellow professionals about forensic accounting, careers in accounting and working to do what we love, even when we have doubts about it.
  • I was part of a very exciting launch of the New York State Society of  CPAs Women’s Initiative and, at the end of the year, I became the Chair of the NYSSCPA Diversity and Inclusion Committee. Through the efforts and enthusiasm of my colleagues and the NYSSCPA, I am fortunate to be involved with such important initiatives and committees.
  • I have seen friends stand up for what they believe is right; I have experienced my communities come together in ways that renew my belief in humanity; I have applauded the sheer awesomeness of my people!

The night of 31 December 2016 turned out to be an incredibly windy one. My husband and I had planned on walking around the neighborhood, discovering the various New Year’s Eve celebrations in our new space. However, gale force winds led to a change of plan (isn’t that how life works?) We made dinner and spent the evening talking, laughing and watching various celebrations on television. I made sure to dance before and after midnight

Growing up, my father gave me a diary for Christmas, every year. I was always excited to get mine and, even as I moved away for college and started living away from home, I still got my diary. In yet another chapter of – Parents are Sneaky and Wise – I have discovered the power and importance of being able to look back and how much that helps in looking forward. So, farewell 2016! I am now turning my head to look ahead to 2017. Hello!


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2016! Three Words! Boom!


Hey there 2016! In 2013, I officially put aside New Year’s Resolutions. This is because I was introduced to the concept of Three Words, by Tom Hood, who found this idea from Chris Brogan. I have found the three words to be a great way to give my year a point of consolidation and mindfulness. I have found the three words to be invaluable. I find myself bringing up these words in conversations and in my writing and I am sure I must sound like a broken record to some people. I am happy to be a broken record if this helps me live a life of greater focus and productivity. I am just about always trying to do too much and I have found these three words give me greater direction.

Last year, my three words were Receptive, Synergy and Service and I found these words coming up often during 2015. I faced several challenges during the year, I embarked on new ventures and my life took turns that I never imagined. During that time, my words from 2013 all the way through 2015 helped form my rallying cry.

As 2015 neared its end, I wondered what my words for 2016 would be. I took the time to look back and think about where I have been and then think forward to where I would like to go and what I want my compass to look like as I travel. Today, I have my words for 2016.

Learn: During my various adventures in 2015, I things thrown at me that I could either try to ignore or take lessons from. My brother got married and that brought a lot of my family together in one place. It is always amazing to me that, for as much as I think I know the stories of my family, when we come together there are new and incredibly interesting things that I learn. My husband and I also spent time together with his aunt where she regaled us with stories of her youth and his family history. As much as I think I know, I find that there are still more ways to expand my mind and that should I choose to, I can keep on learning. I hope to learn in formal settings, in informal setting and totally by surprise.

Fear: I am sure that at some point in my writing I have shared my irrational fear of rodents, a fear that is not very helpful for a person who lives in New York City. I remember once, years ago, I was living in an apartment an old building. The old buildings in New York are lovely to look at but come with holes, holes that mice like to climb through, especially when it gets cold. One evening, I was hanging out on the couch when suddenly a mouse scuttled across my floor. I was frozen on the couch, afraid to move lest the mouse and I collide. People tell me that the rodents are more afraid of me than I am of them; I beg to differ. I ended up calling my neighbor, from the couch and, luckily he came by and dealt with the mouse. Now, I am not about to dive into a close encounter with a rodent, but I am learning that the times that I have been able to get past my fears are the times that I have been able to have new adventures. I started my own business this year and I am learning to not let my fears about failure, about the unknown or about anything else hold me back. I am also having a great time exploring life and learning new things about myself and those around me.

Community: I say it all the time and it remains true – nothing happens without community. When I started my business I found support from friends, family and colleagues. I found support from strangers. Had I realized the power of community, I may have taken the leap earlier. An instrumental aspect of collaboration and synergy is community. As I continue on this incredible adventure, I want to be mindful of the great things that can be achieved by a community.

Just a moment to look back on my words from prior years:

2013 – Change, Discover and Motivate
2014 – Transform, Pursue and Collaborate
2015 – Receptive, Synergy and Service

And now: Learn, Fear and Community

I am unbelievably excited at the prospect of looking fear in the eye and saying, “bring it on.”. For it is through these experiences that I shall learn and it is with these moments that I shall be able to connect with my community and build that community. AND I have an extra day to do all of this this year. So, tell me, what are your words?

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